“It’s never too late… you can have that relationship and it really is a choice.” – Cynthia Clark
Finding our one true love is hard. Sometimes we get swayed to another direction and ends up with a broken heart. Unknowingly, the map leading to love is already carved in our hands. Our hands represent our subconscious mind which affects our personality, thoughts and desires. Having knowledge of this untravelled dimension can tell so much about the kind of person we’re most compatible with. Our guest, Cynthia Clark, will help us find our happiness and love. She explains about relationships and the challenges that come along with having one. Cynthia also shares a lesson on the aspects of palm reading and how her Matchmaker System can help you find your soulmate. Don’t give up the search; it’s never too late to fall in love.
Listen to the podcast here:
02:30 Getting into Palm Reading
06:38 Learning the Language of Hands
16:18 Challenges of our Lives with Palm Reading
20:17 Aspects to Palmistry
28:50 Relationships and Palmistry
34:21 The Matchmaker System
39:48 It’s Never Too late
44:29 The Power of Knowing the Unknown
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“Challenges really are opportunities to help people to grow and if you can recognize what they are and they very clearly spelled out in the hand, it can help you to just live with more joy, more success, more love.” -Cynthia Clark
“Don’t look at those those challenges like they’re just beating you up… You can make progress in it and you can open it and then you’re going to see a different result.” -Cynthia Clark
“You’ve got to learn how to handle the good with the bad, the bad with the good. It’s just part of life.”-Art Costello
“I believe in the possibilities of everything..”-Art Costello
“If you want to get into a really good relationship…why not do it in such a way that is actually in alignment with who you are, which is in your hands and it flows so much easier. ”-Cynthia Clark
“Nothing is perfect because we’re all designed to grow and evolve.” –Cynthia Clark
“When your mind is open to things and you’ll look at it then you will gain knowledge. When you gain knowledge then you can make the decisions that you want to make with certainty.” – Art Costello
“It’s never too late… you can have that relationship and it really is a choice.” – Cynthia Clark
Cynthia Clark is a palm reading consultant and compatibility expert. She used to have her own restaurant and retired early, then realized she needed to go back to work. This started her journey in palm reading. Now, Cynthia coached thousands of people in all areas of their lives. She is the author of Stories in Your Hands: Discover Your Authentic Destiny Using Palmistry & Tarot. She is also the creator of Palm Profiling System that helps those seeking their soulmate by identifying their soulmate archetype. Her greatest desire is in helping those who are seeking their soulmate relationships find their true love and live it.
Art Costello: Welcome to this Shower Epiphanies Podcast, today, I am just thrilled to have Cynthia Clark. I met her at the New Media Summit in San Diego, and she is a Palm Reading Consultant and Compatibility Expert, author of Stories in Your Hands. Cynthia has worked with over 7,000 people in the last 10 years to unlock the truth of their highest potential and joy. She has recently launched a worldwide dating platform that uses palmistry to help people identify and find their soulmate match. Welcome to the show, Cynthia.
Cynthia Clark: Oh, thank you so much, Art. I’m super happy to be here.
Art Costello: It’s good to see you.
Cynthia Clark: Good to see you too.
Art Costello: She’s a cutie. She’s a cutie guys (laughs), but she’s married.
Cynthia Clark: I am.
Art Costello: Can you tell us your story?
Cynthia Clark: Yeah, absolutely. So I have kind of a two part story. So part one is, how I got into palm reading (laughs), which of course is kind of a strange thing to do, not too many people in the world actually read palms for a living. And I used to own a restaurant, so just so you know, I have a business background, I have a business degree from the University of Utah, and I really didn’t study any of this quote unquote like woo-woo stuff (laughs) so much later in my life. Anyway, so I had sold my restaurant back in 2006 and I was pretty much retired at that point and I just decided, well, you know, I should get back to work, I should do something. You know, I was only in my early 30’s so I was way too young to be retired. And so, what I like to do is go to the library and I like to pick up books and I love to read, and I like to read all kinds of different things. So on this particular day, I went to the library and I picked up a book on Palmistry, and I had never studied it before, I had never looked at my hands before, I didn’t know anything about it other than I was a little skeptical, which is probably like most people. I was a little skeptical and I was a little bit like, huh, well, I wonder if there’s really anything to this. And so I decided to take the book home, I mean, that’s the great thing about being at the library, right? And so I took it home, started reading it, and I had this really profound déjà vu experience. It was as if I had read it before, it was as if I had known it my whole life, and I really got a very strong, almost like a voice, even though it wasn’t a voice, but it was like in my head, it was like, you need to study this again. And I was just like, okay, this is weird.
Art Costello: I call it an epiphany. You had an epiphany.
Cynthia Clark: Yes, I had this epiphany. And so this was my first, like real epiphany, and I just had this amazing familiarity with the material. I was reading it. It felt very natural. It felt like, wow, okay, there’s something to this. So instead of just taking the book back to the library and going on with my life, I decided to test out some of the material on people around me. So I was married at the time and I asked my husband: “Okay, can I look at your hands?” And he’s like: “Okay, what are you doing?” And I started telling him things about himself that, I mean, even though I knew him very well, he was like, you can see this here, like you’re reading this here, and it was so strange. And so then I started doing this with people I really didn’t know very well, acquaintances, and just people I’ve worked with. And every single response was basically the same. It’s like, Oh my gosh, how is it that you know this? And I want to know more. And so it was a very positive response. And so I just was like, wow, okay. I think there’s something to this palm reading thing, and it’s really not as woo-woo stuff I thought it was. And it’s actually really useful and people can benefit from it. So that’s how I got started into just palm reading itself. And, you know, I’ve been doing it now for over 10 years and I’m so grateful that I’ve had this experience and it all started with that epiphany.
Art Costello: You know, how much do you think is intuitive, and how much do you think is actually knowledge that you gained from reading the book and learning the different lines? Does that make sense, that question?
Cynthia Clark: Absolutely. And I would say that it’s probably 70/30, 70% is learning the language of hands and it’s actually like a, you can think of it like a foreign language. There are rules and regulations, and you can learn them, anybody can learn them, but there is a certain aspect of intuition that comes in and that’s actually how I’ve developed my soulmate identifying system, and so that’s like, you know, part two of this story. There is a certain aspect that comes through, especially the more hands that you read, you know, once you get past like say 500 hands, you’re going to read them differently than your, say your first, your first 500 hands are going to be like, okay, I’m memorizing the material that I’ve learned and I’m, you know, I’m testing it out on the person, and I am not really thinking about anything else cause, you know, it’s kind of like that foreign language. It’s like okay I’ve got to remember the phrase, you know, how do I say hello? How do I respond? I studied French in school too, that was my minor. But yeah, so that’s kind of like when you’re learning something new, you’re just like really focused on, okay what’s the rule? What is this called? What does it have to do with? But then as you get further along, so yeah, I’d say after about 500 pairs of hands, that’s when you really start to pick up like, Hey, guess what? You can kind of piece things together, and you can start to see something in a more complete picture, more of a complete hole. And that’s really how just my evolution of reading has developed over time. And I do have tons and tons of trainings, I’ve read over a hundred books on palmistry, I’ve trained with some of the best teachers in the world, I’ve put in thousands of hours of actual like learning systems, learning, you know, different things like that. But at the same time I’ve developed my own way of interpreting and looking at things and that’s come through the intuition, which couldn’t have come. I don’t think it could have come without all of that experience first, I needed to get that experience.
Art Costello: I just had a morbid thought, but this was really kind of morbid, but you know, it’s always easy to tell people the good stuff, but when you’re reading a palm, and you see something bad, or something, I don’t like to use the word bad, I don’t like that word.
Cynthia Clark: Yeah.
Art Costello: You see something that is adverse to their growth, to their psyche, you know, their whole being, how do you handle that?
Cynthia Clark: I actually have a really good story about that.
Art Costello: Tell us.
Cynthia Clark: Which unfortunately didn’t end well for the person, but I think this is a really good story. Well I have, I have two good stories actually. One ended, well. One didn’t end well. So the one that did END WELL, okay, I was reading for a guy in his 50’s, and he had actually gone to bet, and he was greeted by some mountain palm reader, like mystic, like somebody like that.
Art Costello: The woo-woo thing?
Cynthia Clark: Yeah. Anyway, that person told him that when he was in his 50’s, I think 53 or something, that he would die, that he would either die at that point, or he would get through a very serious illness and he would come out the other side, and then he would live a very long life. And so when I met him, he was at that age of whatever it was that they had told him he would die. And so he was kind of petrified to talk to me obviously because it’s like, am I going to die this year? And I looked at his hand and I could see the point on his lifelines. So by the way, your lifeline does not tell you how long you’re gonna live, okay. So that’s a myth, and that’s because your lines actually change, okay. So even major lines like a lifeline can change. So a lot of people think that’s what it tells you that it’s not. But it does tell you about, like, challenges, and stability, and vitality.
Art Costello: You mean, I can stop eating cause I thought if my hands got fat, change my wife (laughs), sorry, I had to be funny, sorry.
Cynthia Clark: Yeah, your hands will change (laughs). Your fingers can get fatter or skinnier, your fingers can bend. I mean, all kinds of stuff can happen. Anyways, so this guy, I could see the stress in his lifeline. There was a break in his lifeline, which is still a big deal even if you don’t read it as a death, which I don’t read it that way, but it’s still something to pay attention to. So it was definitely for him, I’m like, okay, well look at how it’s breaking. And I said: “Okay, well it looks like you’re coming through it, and it looks really positive, and it looks like whatever the experience is is going to be a growth period for you.” And sure enough, he had a major illness, almost died, got through it, and he was fine. And so he was wondering if that was quote unquote THE EVENT. And so the answer was like, well, yes, that was the event. And so he was really relieved, then he was more excited about, well, what else is (laughs)–
Art Costello: Like, how wealthy am I going to be (laughs)?
Cynthia Clark: Yeah, well he was already a multimillionaire, so that wasn’t a problem. But I think he was just looking more in terms of his stage two of life, you know, it’s like, well, if I’m going to be around, what can I do with the rest of my life that’s meaningful? And I think a lot of people really are just looking for meaning in their lives. And unfortunately, I did see a young woman and I had read for her for several years, and she had a break in her lifeline that was more like a fade where the line, instead of being like a solid line, like literally disappeared, and then it faded back in. And so, how I interpreted that for her at the time was, you really need to ground yourself and you need to pay attention, because she was kind of a daredevil kind of a person. She took really big risks, she was an expert skier, and she was a mountain climber, and she was a risk taker. And in my opinion, she kind of pushed it to the edge, and I told her not to do that. I’m like: “Don’t push it too hard, you know, just be careful.” And unfortunately she fell to her death at age 25.
Art Costello: Oh, wow.
Cynthia Clark: So, I was really interested in your hands afterwards, and I had tracked her for probably three years, and I saw that fade out on the lifeline and it was just like, it was sad, it was really sad.
Art Costello: Yeah, 25 is really, really young, they haven’t yet started to live. I mean, it happens, you know, we live and die. I mean, it’s amazing that you can see that in the hand, it just amazes me. I think back to the guys that I was in Vietnam with, you know, that were 17, 18 years old, and lose their lives and stuff, you know? And if it was already in their hands that you could see that, you know?
Cynthia Clark: Yeah. But yeah, I do feel like people can change their fate based upon their decisions. So let’s say you have, you know, a challenge like that, it’s like, well, maybe if she would have, you know, maybe not taken so many risks, or if she just would’ve been a little more careful in the mountains that she decided to climb. I mean, she was climbing a very dangerous fourteener, and it’s like, why do you need to push it that far? It’s like, you fall, you die kind of scenario. I mean, I’m an expert skier myself and I don’t take those kinds of risks. I know my limits, and I know, like, I want to stick around.
Art Costello: You know, the other thought that I’m having with this is that I’ve known so many young people because we have so many bull riders here that ride bulls, and you know, it’s a dangerous, dangerous sport.
Cynthia Clark: Yeah.
Art Costello: Getting on the back of a 2000, 2500 pound bull is a dangerous sport.
Cynthia Clark: For sure.
Art Costello: And I’ve lost several friends over the years, and all that young men that have pursued it. But the one thing that they all had in common, the bull riders squad was, ‘If I’m going to die, I would rather die doing something that I love.’ than, you know, going in a car accident or whatever, you know.
Cynthia Clark: Right.
Art Costello: So, you know, I guess that’s a different perspective on it, but it doesn’t really involve what you do, it’s just a thought I had in my head.“Don't look at those those challenges like they're just beating you up… You can make progress in it and you can open it and then you're going to see a different result.” -Cynthia Clark Click To Tweet
Cynthia Clark: Yeah, no, for sure. I mean, I like to give people advice, so yeah, I would never, ever tell somebody when they’re going to die. I mean, I can’t read that anyway through the hands, but I would never even want to guess something like that, it’s just really, to me it’s very irresponsible. But I do like to look at challenges, so I’m glad you brought that up because challenges really are just opportunities to help people to grow. And if you can recognize what they are and they’re very clearly spelled out in the hands, then it can help you to just live with more joy, more success, more love, I mean, that’s what it’s all about. And so you don’t look at those challenges like they’re just beating you up, they’re not really like that. They’re just showing you, okay, this is a block, or this is something you struggle with, but you can take that, and you can make progress in it ,and you can open it, and then you’re going to see a different results.“Challenges really are opportunities to help people to grow and if you can recognize what they are and they very clearly spelled out in the hand, it can help you to just live with more joy, more success, more love.” -Cynthia Clark Click To Tweet
Art Costello: And that’s helpful. I mean, that’s really, really helpful when you know that the challenge is coming and you can prepare for it because, I write a lot in my book about how do you expect the unexpected, and how do you do that? And that’s about being prepared. You know, you’re prepared for the unexpected. I mean, we all know that stuff is going to happen in our lives, but if you have your palm read, and it doesn’t have to be specific dates, but if you know you’re going to have these certain challenges, like, can you tell when there’s gonna be money challenges, when there’s gonna be money abundance, and that kind of thing?
Cynthia Clark: I can definitely tell if you’re blocked in money, or if you feel like that’s very important to you, like those types of things will show up. And what I like to help people with is the opening of blockages. So I’ve done energy healing work for about 20 years, and I’ve got some really cool techniques to help people work through different challenges. And I especially love helping people through their heart blockages. So like, there’s 10 different heart chambers that show up in your hands and if you can figure out which one is blocked, you know, it’s going to explain either the struggle that you’re having in a current relationship, or it’s going to explain why you’re either attracting a bad relationship, or simply are not in a relationship. So to identify those things is just so valuable.
Art Costello: Do you read your own palm?
Cynthia Clark: All the time.
Art Costello: All the time (laughs).
Cynthia Clark: Yeah. In fact, I have tracked my hands now ever since I started reading palms, so, a little over 10 years. And it’s funny because I’ve tracked a few other people as well, and you can see the changes. You can actually look at, you know, Oh, yeah, that year, I was really struggling over in these areas, and Hey, it looks like it’s starting to get better, and better, and better, and it’s like yay. And sure enough, right now where I’m at in my life, I’m very happy, I’m happily remarried after a divorce and a fatal attraction relationship. I’ve really come through some pretty heavy experiences. And I think the reason why I went through those experiences was so that I would have the perspective to help other people get through them.
Art Costello: I believe that, I honestly do that the reason that we’re faced with challenges, and obstacles, and even joys, I mean, you know, a lot of people focus on the obstacles and blockages, but there’s a lot of people who have great success and are still unhappy, or still not fulfilled in many ways. So, you’ve got to learn how to handle the good with the bad, and the bad with the good, and it’s just part of life.“You’ve got to learn how to handle the good with the bad, the bad with the good. It’s just part of life.”-Art Costello Click To Tweet
Cynthia Clark: Exactly. And that’s the other cool thing about hands is that there’s really three different aspects to palmistry. And this is again, something that I don’t think everybody really thinks about every day, but you’ve got your fingerprints, right? Okay, now you know, you can’t change those, right?
Art Costello: No, I had mine filed off (laughs).
Cynthia Clark: So, yeah. So, your fingerprints four and five months before you were born and they never ever change. They represent your soul imprint. So, when you, you know, they formed five months before birth, so before you even have a personality, you have fingerprints, and those fingerprints are unique to you, which is of course why the FBI can identify you with the fingerprint, and you can try to file them off or whatever, but I promise you they’ll grow back (laughs). You simply can’t get rid of them. In fact, I read for a guy who put both of his hands in a bonfire, burned off like all of his fingertips. And he showed me the picture of this like a couple of months after he got better and I could, we blew up the picture, and I could totally read the fingerprints, it was so, like, creepy, anyways, that was an experience. But what I’m getting at is that you came in with an agenda, like you’re sold it, and that’s going to be in your fingerprints. So, you also have an archetype, okay, and that forms in your hands as your palm shape. So from the time you’re born to the time you’re about six years old, you are completely in your subconscious mind, and you are developing your personality. You don’t have a set personality yet because you’re still forming, you’re still very young, but by the time your hand forms its final shape, and that’s around age five or six, that’s going to represent your subconscious influences that affect your personality, and that also will tell you who you’re the most compatible with, who you’re not compatible with. Also it represents what your personality wants to demonstrate, and what you naturally, you know, just some of your natural traits, you can think of it like that. And then there’s all the lines in your hand, which we already talked a little bit about, which change, that represents your free will. So you can, like, if you change the way you think, or you change your emotions, or you change your environment, chances are something in your hand will change with it and it will reflect that. So how you interact with your environment, how you interact with people, how do you feel, how you think, all that, is going to be in the changeable aspect of your lines.
Art Costello: Hmm.
Cynthia Clark: And all of these things kind of overlay, almost like a, you know, like a sandwich maybe, you could think of it like that where we got like the bread, and the cheese, and whatever, and all of it creates you. And it’s putting those things together that can really help you understand the different aspects of who you are. And I feel that the more you know about that, the better decisions you can make in your life, and the more fulfilled, you know, the happier you’ll be. So yeah, let’s say you’re struggling with your job but you’re happy in your relationship, you know, that’s terrific. Maybe you need to find out what is going on in your talents. Like what talents do you naturally have that maybe you’re not expressing. And those kinds of things will show up, like, you may have a talent marker in your passive hand, and this is again why we have two hands. Potential shows up on one hand, like, already developed stuff shows up on the other hand, you can also think of like ancestral influences are going to be more in the passive hand, the active hands going to be more current type stuff, and both hands do change. But you may have a talent on your passive hand, and it’s like, Hey, guess what? You have a talent that maybe you could develop or use, and if you choose to use it, you’ll probably be a lot happier. And if you’ve got it on your active hand, or if you’ve got it on both hands, it’s like, okay, you definitely need to be using this talent or gift. And if you’re not, chances are you’re in the penalty zone, or the negative side of it, and you’re struggling. So, once you fully understand that and embrace that, it can change your whole life. Just knowing one talent marker can change your whole life.
Art Costello: Sure. I mean, it makes sense. I mean, that it could.
Cynthia Clark: Yeah.
Art Costello: If you’re open to it, if you’re open minded enough, because there’s people that always buck everything, you know what I mean? They don’t want, you know what I mean? They want to challenge it, you know, and say — you know?
Cynthia Clark: Yes.“When your mind is open to things and you’ll look at it then you will gain knowledge. When you gain knowledge then you can make the decisions that you want to make with certainty.” - Art Costello Click To Tweet
Art Costello: I always have this saying that I use, ‘I believe in the possibilities of everything.’ Because I’m open to everything. I mean, I believe that when your mind is open to things and you’ll look at them, then you gain knowledge, and when you gain knowledge, then you can make the decisions that you want to make with certainty. And this is another realm that I hadn’t thought about were implementing it in your life really could have a pronounced effect on the outcomes that we have in our lives. So using it as a really, really good tool, and being able to be open to it is even batter.“I believe in the possibilities of everything..”-Art Costello Click To Tweet
Cynthia Clark: Yeah, and a lot of people, I think the problem goes back to the 1500 when palmistry was deemed witchcraft and you would be burned at the stake for practicing it. Yeah, I mean, I was probably killed in many lifetimes if, you know, I feel like I’ve probably been killed, you know, more than once for doing stuff like this. But it kind of makes sense why we still have sort of this negative stigma around palmistry, and unfortunately, I feel like it is so outdated, but we really need to come back to the truth of it, and it goes back way more than people realize. I mean, it’s at least 4,000 years old. We think it started either in China or India, we’re not really sure, but it’s very, very ancient. And modern palmistry is actually quite scientific, especially once you start to think about, like, yeah, it’s a language, and it’s not really predictive in, like I said, I don’t tell you when you’re going to die, but I can certainly see challenges and things like that. And I think if we can take away some of the fear around it, then maybe more people would be open to really learning what it’s all about because it is so useful. I mean, it’s just changed my life in so many positive ways.
Art Costello: Fear stops everything when they go into that fear mode, you know, it stops you from learning, I mean, there’s so many aspects of fear, we could talk all day about that. One of the things that I want to talk about is relationships and palmistry.
Cynthia Clark: Yes, my favorite subject. Yeah, this is where it gets really juicy, and I did not come across this by accident, I swear, this is like all divinely led, and I feel just very grateful to all of my relationships, okay. And this is something where a lot of people are going to be like, wow, you’re even grateful for your fatal attraction. You know what? I am, because it has taught me so much. So, I was married for 19 years. I was married to really wonderful guy, and I wish him absolute joy and happiness forever. I don’t talk to him anymore, I don’t know where he is anymore, but I really do hope that he is okay. And for a lot of reasons our marriage ended, which I won’t get into all those details, but it was just time for it to end. And that was another thing that, you know, how the universe sends you messages and things like that. Oh, my heck did I get a lot of messages at that time. I got the triple nine, which I dunno if you do numbers, or numerology, or that sort of thing, but I read numbers too, just in for my own, you know, personal messages from the universe. And so triple nine basically was like, okay, something as big as ending. And I was like, huh, I wonder what’s ending, still had no idea. And then I had line in my hand, they’re called affection lines, and I had an affection line that was detaching, and I was like, huh, well maybe I’m not reading this line correctly. Like, I was starting to doubt my own ability, it’s really funny. But anyways, so the universe was kept trying to throw me messages and I finally figured it out. Anyways, so, I went through a dark period of, you know, divorce and I ended up getting vertigo for like nine months, and I was sick. I couldn’t drive a car, like, I could barely walk. I mean, it was really horrible.
Art Costello: I have vertigo for three days and I went berserk, I mean, it just, I did not, I couldn’t walk, I couldn’t–“Nothing is perfect because we're all designed to grow and evolve.” -Cynthia Clark Click To Tweet
Cynthia Clark: Yeah, yeah. I had it for nine months, it was really horrible. And I had attracted, what I call the fatal attraction at that time when I was really vulnerable and going through my divorce. It was so interesting how this all played out. I was with him on and off for about two years, and then eventually, I got out of that relationship, and boy do I have a lot of stories with that one. I ended up with my current husband, we’ve been married a little over two years now, and we’re so happy, and I’m just like, I couldn’t be just more happy about the way everything turned out. You know, life is really, really amazing. But during all that time, I ended up learning about relationships in such a way that you can actually read them in the hands, but not just to understand, like, I had always studied the personality archetypes, and you know, I was telling you about that second type of reading, the hand shapes, right? That formed by the time you’re about six, those hand shapes not only tell you who you are, but they tell you who you are literally best aligned with. So in other words, your soulmate archetype. And of course we have many, many soul mates too. So I don’t want people to get hung up on that term soulmate. We have, thousands of people could be your soul mate match, but it’s a type of connection that goes beyond the superficial. So a lot of times people are attracted by, Oh, what does he look like? Do we have the same things in common? You know, things like that are, in my opinion, kind of just superficial. And after a certain amount of time, unless you really matched, you know, energetically, you’re probably not going to be in a good relationship with that person, or you’re going to have some sort of problems like I did with my fatal attraction, you know, it’s just not healthy, toxic, it can be kind of destructive. So if you want to get into a really good relationship, especially if you’re not in one already, why not do it in such a way that is actually in alignment with who you are, which is in your hands, and it flows so much easier. Like I consider a soulmate relationship, one of those relationships that just is, it’s not perfect, okay. So a lot of times we have this idea of perfection. Nothing is perfect because we’re all designed to grow and evolve, but it’s easy and there’s a certain amount of flow in it, and it’s comfortable, and it helps you expand. So it helps you become more aligned with your purpose, and you also can help that person become more aligned with their purpose. And it’s just a very expansive relationship. That is what I want for everybody.“If you want to get into a really good relationship...why not do it in such a way that is actually in alignment with who you are, which is in your hands and it flows so much easier. ”-Cynthia Clark Click To Tweet
Art Costello: Does your match-make or system that you’ve developed address all that?
Cynthia Clark: Yes, it does.
Art Costello: Can you tell us about the matchmaker system?
Cynthia Clark: Yes, I would love to tell you. I’m one of those, again, remember I have a business degree, like, if we go back to my, you know, like my restaurant days, I’m a worker first of all. And second of all, I try to, like, I can only do so much if I’m working with people one on one, right? So, in my mind I was like, how can I automate this where people can actually get matched without me having to read every single person’s hand? You know, I can only do so much in a day, right? So, I ended up finding a programmer, a computer programmer, because I am definitely not one of those, I don’t have that type of brain. And I just proposed like: “Okay, this is what I need the system to do. Can you program it so that we can automate the system?” And he’s like: “Yeah, we can do that. You know, it’ll take some work, but we can do that.” And so that’s how lovingyourhands.com came into being. And so it’s really amazing. The algorithm uses everything I’ve learned about palmistry, it helps actually put you into the category you belong in, and it will automatically match you in the system with anybody who is in alignment with you. So, it’s really revolutionary in the way that it matches people. And I’m really excited to just get it out there, and it’s worldwide. I set it up to be worldwide because everybody has hands, unless you had an accident or something.
Art Costello: I’m trying to picture this. How do they get their palm print to where you can get read it to match?
Cynthia Clark: Yeah, thankfully we have so much technology out there now. All you really have to do is take a digital picture of your palm, and you upload it into the computer, and it will ask you just a couple of questions, up to five questions is all you need to answer. So, you know how some of those profiles, you’ll need to have to answer hundreds of questions, it’s not like that at all. Only up to five questions and then it will be able to put you into this soulmate archetype that you are, who’s your match, who’s your fatal attraction, who’s your opposite, who are other great matches, which I do recommend looking at great matches as well because they could be, you know, just as good as a soulmate match. So definitely there worth exploring more, get to know those people more, and it’s pretty cool, yes.
Art Costello: So you have to build your database of single people, I was going to say that, I guess you could get some jerks out there that are going to be married and looking for their soulmate, sorry.
Cynthia Clark: Yeah, well hopefully not.
Art Costello: Yeah, hopefully not. So you have to build a database of men and women, and you know that you’ll build the platform with, right?
Cynthia Clark: Yeah. I mean it’s ready to go, it’s out there.
Art Costello: Is there a cost to it?
Cynthia Clark: I’m actually offering one month membership for free, so anybody can go out there and try it totally free today, and find out your archetype. And this is another cool thing, okay. So let’s say you’re on a bunch of other dating sites because back when I got divorced, and I actually tried some online dating, and I found it kind of frustrating, you know, the whole thing was like–
Art Costello: It’s how I met my wife.
Cynthia Clark: Yeah, yeah. See, but it does work, right?
Art Costello: Yes, it does.
Cynthia Clark: But it does take some work, right? So let’s say you’re on two or three sites, and yeah, my database is probably not nearly as big as say some of the other ones because I’m just getting started. But it can still be very useful for you, because if you find somebody either in person or on one of the other dating sites, just ask for a picture of their hand, okay. Now if they’re not open to this, then maybe they’re not the right person for you anyway, but just get a picture of their hand. You can upload that into my membership as many times as you want. So you can have, you know, if you have 10 people you want to check out, you can find out if you’re compatible with them or not.
Art Costello: Is it too late for me to put my wife’s and my hands in there to see for compatible?
Cynthia Clark: Well, you know, no. I feel like it’s never too late to understand your partner better, but I wouldn’t necessarily recommend you go into the site for that. I really do recommend single people should just go in there. But if you’re a couple, then, you know, I certainly do work with couples and I can just help them to understand each other better. So, for example, I’m not going to be like a homewrecker, it’s not what I’m about, but I just want to give you the awareness of like, Art, this is your archetype, this is who you are, and this is your spouse, and this is what they’re all about. And it just helps you to understand that person better.
Art Costello: Yeah, I’m really blessed. I’m married, very, very wonderful lady and absolutely have more fun than I’ve ever had in my life. I mean, really, in the past 10 years, you know, cause I was married 38 before I lost my wife to cancer, and the last 10 years have probably been the most joyous. But let me just tell you what my late wife left me with, one of the greatest gifts I think a woman can leave a husband, and at the time I didn’t think about it. When she passed away, she told me, she said: “I want to release you from your marriage vows so you can go find someone to treat just like you’ve treated me for all these years because she’s waiting for you out there.”
Cynthia Clark: Oh, I love that.
Art Costello: You know, I think Vicki’s hands were all over me meeting Beverly because she is certainly being the biggest blessing in my life. So if you’re listening out there and you’re looking for a spouse, there’s hope, you know, this is really, really something that can add to your arsenal of tools to picking a mate.
Cynthia Clark: Yeah.
Art Costello: I really love it, it’s good. And I know your story, I know how happy you are.
Cynthia Clark: Yeah. I’m so happy. And I read my husband’s hands on our first date because I really wanted to know.
Art Costello: Can you tell us what that was like?
Cynthia Clark: Well, he was a good sport, so, thankfully, I mean, he already knew what I did for a living, so it wasn’t like a big mystery. So I’m sure he was expecting me to ask him, like, can I see your hands please? He was really open to it though, because he’s what I call the investigator archetype, and investigators are super curious, and they want to know everything about everything. Anyway, so he was already open to like, yeah, what do you see? I want to know. To me that was such a compliment because it’s like, well, yay, I don’t have to like pry your fingers open.
Art Costello: Yup. It’s kind of like a test of trust, you know? I mean if somebody will show your hand like that, I mean, just thinking about this logically, I mean, you know, you put your hand out is a gesture of Goodwill and kindness. So putting his hand out to you willingly is a sign of trust in you. That is really cool. That is cool.
Cynthia Clark: Yeah. And it doesn’t mean you can’t make a less than ideal, like, match work. I mean, you definitely can. I mean, I was married to my first husband of 19 years. We were not a soulmate match. We were in what I would call a good, you know, and I would say in a lot of ways things work, but in a lot of ways they were challenging. And you know, it’s like, now I just have such a different perspective on the entire relationship because of my knowledge of hands.
Art Costello: I understand that perfectly because, I mean, I was married for 38 years to one. We had our challenges and we certainly had our disagreements. She was very strong willed, and I’m very strong willed, and we butted heads on a lot of things. But the one thing that always kept us is that we knew we loved each other, and you know, that was the bond that kept us, you know, we trusted and loved each other. But Beverly, my current wife always says: “You were trained well for 38 years before I got ya.” She had never been married.
Cynthia Clark: Oh, wow.
Art Costello: She was 53 and had never been married when she met me. And I was 10 years older than her, and you know, her girlfriends just asked for what she saw in me, you know.
Cynthia Clark: Well, and that’s the cool thing about understanding your archetype is that it actually gives you a way of communicating with other people, and a way of understanding them better so it can build the relationship. I feel in ways that other types of profiling really can’t do because it’s that subconscious influence. It’s really amazing.
Art Costello: Yeah. One of the things I was just thinking about when you were saying that was, that in the work that I do with people, I often see so many, and I see more women than men, but I see so many women that are unhappy in their relationships and had been in long term relationships, you know, 25, 15, 25, 35 years, and they’re trying to figure out how to end the relationship and transition into a new life. You know, these tools are not only given them hope, but if they had known about it before, they might have been able to even, maybe in some cases salvage marriages because they would have known the unknown, and any time, you know the unknown. It’s powerful, I mean, it’s really powerful.
Cynthia Clark: Yeah. It builds compassion, and it builds understanding on different levels. And to me it’s just like, why wouldn’t you want to know that? So, you know, that’s why I really want to get the fear out of the whole thing because it’s, knowing this is very powerful information.
Art Costello: Yeah it is. With that being said, how can people, and where can people get ahold of you?
Cynthia Clark: They can go to my website, so go to loveinyourhands.com, and you can reach me through the site. You can email me, email@example.com. And I’ve got all sorts of services, I help people through heartbreaks, I help people understand the whole compatibility system, I’ve got some different online courses, and I also help people to actually magnetize to their soulmate, I’ve really studied this, and all the tools that I share are ways that I attracted my current husband. So it’s not, it’s definitely been tested. And then, yeah, they can get started for free in the membership area and find out their archetype and it’s, you know, just knowing that is very useful.
Art Costello: Is there any parting wisdom you want to bestow on us?
Cynthia Clark: Yes, I totally agree with you that it’s never too late. So, you know, it doesn’t matter if you’re in your 60’s, 70’s, 80’s, it does not matter how old you are, it’s really up to you just to have the desire to be in that type of relationship. You can have that relationship, and it really is a choice, and yeah, it takes a little bit of work, but you can have that, and if I can help you get there, I’m more than happy to do that because, I mean, I want to see a lot more love in the world, and you know, if we can all learn to live life with love, that’s what I’m all about.“It’s never too late... you can have that relationship and it really is a choice.” - Cynthia Clark Click To Tweet
Art Costello: That is the truth.
Cynthia Clark: Yeah. Never give up on love, please.
Art Costello: You can’t. If you give up on love, you’ve given up, and that’s not good. Well, Cynthia Clark, it has been a pleasure. I can’t believe that we just went through about 15 minutes of just faster than anything. So much knowledge that you’ve laid on us, and so many insights, it’s really great. And I’m going to encourage everybody to go to Cynthia’s site and support her, and you know, she’ll help you find what you’re possibly looking for, and it’ll all work out the way it’s supposed to be when you trust your hands.
Cynthia Clark: Absolutely. Thank you so much. It’s been really fun.
Art Costello: Thank you Cynthia. Everybody out there, and Shower Epiphanies land, thank you for attending this week, and you know where you can get ahold of me, expectationtherapy.com, it’s been a pleasure another week. Thank you again Cynthia, and I hope that every dream that you have comes true.
Cynthia Clark: Oh, thank you.
Art Costello: With that being said, everybody have a great week.
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